Anonymous said: Holy shit Kel, I'm feeling you on the nanny post. People shouldn't expect their babysitters to be substitute parents! Even if its unavoidable to have work/other commitments as a first priority, there is no way kids should be so far down their list of 'things that are important'. I wonder if our attitudes on nanny's will change when we have our own children though...
It’s insane how I am expected to play the parental role. It gets to the point where I play it so often that they despise me for playing the role without having the personal respect they have for their parents. It’s such a difficult role. Especially when the oldest child is 13, he practically hates me because I have to tell him what to do. It’s just so difficult. These parents work so hard and then when they are home they expect me to work further while they go out and have fun. I spend more time with the kids than they do and you see it in the kid’s behaviour because of it. They are so disrespectful, short-fused and irate when they don’t have adequate enough time with their parents. I’m a great nanny but I can only do so much. It’s definitely changed how I will act with my future children. I plan on being a very hands on parent and dealing with things very personally. These parents are really great parents and I learn a lot from them when they are around but having 5 kids is insane. Especially when dealing with their own massive careers and busy lifestyles. I feel your pain so much. Tell me your stories so I don’t feel as bad! I feel so terrible about it right now. It’s so hard for me to deal with conflicted situations at the moment. I have no clarity.
Imagine going to work and it being a break from your every day life. Imagine having 5 kids to chase around constantly making sure their very busy lives are constantly together. I spend more time with them than their own parents do, purely because they’re so busy. I don’t understand why people have so many children only to try and escape from them whenever they’re around. These kids are starting to hate me, because I am not their parents. It’s starting to suck being a nanny. It was a job that I once loved and it’s so difficult sometimes, with some of the situations I am put in. I spend so much time keeping their lives perfect yet mine falls by the wayside and I’m left at the end of the day, emotionally exhausted and unable to deal with my own personal problems.
September 14 2014 | Kimberley Garner in Maje at Topshop Unique at London Fashion Week.